NATIONAL BESTSELLER
With social media and constant connection, the boundaries of privacy are stretched thin. Growing Up in Public shows parents how to help tweens and teens navigate boundaries, identity, privacy, and reputation in their digital world.
We can track our kids' every move with apps, see their grades within minutes of being posted, and fixate on their digital footprint, anxious that a misstep could cause them to be "canceled" or even jeopardize their admission to college. And all of this adds pressure on kids who are coming of age immersed in social media platforms that emphasize "personal brand," "likes," and "gotcha" moments. How can they figure out who they really are with zero privacy and constant judgment? Devorah Heitner shows us that by focusing on character, not the threat of getting caught or exposed, we can support our kids to be authentically themselves.
Drawing on her extensive work with parents and schools as well as hundreds of interviews with kids, parents, educators, clinicians, and scholars, Heitner offers strategies for parenting our kids in an always-connected world. With relatable stories and research-backed advice, Growing Up in Public empowers parents to cut through the overwhelm to connect with their kids, recognize how to support them, and help them figure out who they are when everyone is watching.
The definitive book on helping kids navigate growing up in a world where nearly every moment of their lives can be shared and compared
NATIONAL BESTSELLER
With social media and constant connection, the boundaries of privacy are stretched thin. Growing Up in Public shows parents how to help tweens and teens navigate boundaries, identity, privacy, and reputation in their digital world.
We can track our kids' every move with apps, see their grades within minutes of being posted, and fixate on their digital footprint, anxious that a misstep could cause them to be "canceled" or even jeopardize their admission to college. And all of this adds pressure on kids who are coming of age immersed in social media platforms that emphasize "personal brand," "likes," and "gotcha" moments. How can they figure out who they really are with zero privacy and constant judgment? Devorah Heitner shows us that by focusing on character, not the threat of getting caught or exposed, we can support our kids to be authentically themselves.
Drawing on her extensive work with parents and schools as well as hundreds of interviews with kids, parents, educators, clinicians, and scholars, Heitner offers strategies for parenting our kids in an always-connected world. With relatable stories and research-backed advice, Growing Up in Public empowers parents to cut through the overwhelm to connect with their kids, recognize how to support them, and help them figure out who they are when everyone is watching.
NATIONAL BESTSELLER
With social media and constant connection, the boundaries of privacy are stretched thin. Growing Up in Public shows parents how to help tweens and teens navigate boundaries, identity, privacy, and reputation in their digital world.
We can track our kids' every move with apps, see their grades within minutes of being posted, and fixate on their digital footprint, anxious that a misstep could cause them to be "canceled" or even jeopardize their admission to college. And all of this adds pressure on kids who are coming of age immersed in social media platforms that emphasize "personal brand," "likes," and "gotcha" moments. How can they figure out who they really are with zero privacy and constant judgment? Devorah Heitner shows us that by focusing on character, not the threat of getting caught or exposed, we can support our kids to be authentically themselves.
Drawing on her extensive work with parents and schools as well as hundreds of interviews with kids, parents, educators, clinicians, and scholars, Heitner offers strategies for parenting our kids in an always-connected world. With relatable stories and research-backed advice, Growing Up in Public empowers parents to cut through the overwhelm to connect with their kids, recognize how to support them, and help them figure out who they are when everyone is watching.
The definitive book on helping kids navigate growing up in a world where nearly every moment of their lives can be shared and compared
NATIONAL BESTSELLER
With social media and constant connection, the boundaries of privacy are stretched thin. Growing Up in Public shows parents how to help tweens and teens navigate boundaries, identity, privacy, and reputation in their digital world.
We can track our kids' every move with apps, see their grades within minutes of being posted, and fixate on their digital footprint, anxious that a misstep could cause them to be "canceled" or even jeopardize their admission to college. And all of this adds pressure on kids who are coming of age immersed in social media platforms that emphasize "personal brand," "likes," and "gotcha" moments. How can they figure out who they really are with zero privacy and constant judgment? Devorah Heitner shows us that by focusing on character, not the threat of getting caught or exposed, we can support our kids to be authentically themselves.
Drawing on her extensive work with parents and schools as well as hundreds of interviews with kids, parents, educators, clinicians, and scholars, Heitner offers strategies for parenting our kids in an always-connected world. With relatable stories and research-backed advice, Growing Up in Public empowers parents to cut through the overwhelm to connect with their kids, recognize how to support them, and help them figure out who they are when everyone is watching.
Devorah Heitner, Ph.D., is the authority parents turn to for empowering advice on raising resilient and kind kids in our always-connected world. Her previous book, Screenwise- Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World, was an Amazon bestseller and widely praised. She is a featured speaker at conferences and independent and public schools in the United States and abroad. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, CNN Opinion, and Fast Company, among others. Dr. Heitner earned a Ph.D. in media, technology and society from Northwestern University and has taught at DePaul University, Lake Forest College, and Northwestern.
"Devorah Heitner's fantastic new book begins with a
clear-eyed message for those of us raising or shaping
young people in this moment. Kids feel watched but not seen."—Heidi
Stevens, Chicago Tribune
"Growing Up in Public gives parents a gentle guide on how to keep
lines of communication open between them and their
child.... This is an important guidebook for all parents as
they seek to give their children the skills they need to navigate
our brave new world."—BookPage
"Astute advice on how parents can help their children navigate
social media and other technology.... The levelheaded guidance
is a refreshing antidote to more alarmist takes on the topic."
—Publishers Weekly
"Expert advice for parents and teens backed by relevant research
and clear thinking."
—Kirkus
“Parents would do well to heed Devorah’s advice to stop agonizing
about their kids going viral for the wrong reasons and focus
instead on helping them figure out who they really are.”
—Jessica Lahey, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of
Failure
“A must-read for every parent, Growing Up in Public brilliantly
guides us in how to use conversations with our kids about the
digital world as opportunities to develop their character and
deepen our relationship with them. Emphasizing the importance of
our children feeling seen instead of watched, mentored instead of
monitored, this book is all at once a roadmap for preventing
digital problems, a resource for what to do when things go wrong,
and a crash course in how to empower our kids to become
responsible, independent, and thoughtful digital citizens.
—Tina Payne Bryson, LCSW, PhD, New York Times bestselling coauthor
of The Whole-Brain Child
“With empathy and insight, Devorah Heitner sheds light on how
parents’ scrutiny and monitoring of teenagers can intensify the
stress of growing up with social media. We need to listen to kids
to understand the ways they are re-writing the rules about what we
share about ourselves. This is essential reading for anyone who
cares about kids and teens.”
—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You
Should Talk to Someone
“Every parent needs this book! Growing Up in Public is the smart,
frank, and compassionate advice we need so we can protect our kids
from the land mines they face in a digital world. Heitner levels up
our understanding, delivers us from fear, and empowers us to
confidently mentor our kids.”
—Julie Lythcott-Haims, New York Times bestselling author of How to
Raise an Adult
“Devorah Heitner really gets why young people deserve privacy,
respect, and autonomy. She translates teens’ social and technology
landscape for parents so they can help their children thrive. Her
focus on character instead of the threat of consequences is a rare
antidote to the fear-based parenting that so many others have
espoused.”
—Rosalind Wiseman, New York Times bestselling author of Queen Bees
and Wannabes
“Growing Up in Public is a book for our times, helping you balance
your impulse to protect your children with their fundamental needs
to create their identities, develop independence, and learn to
successfully manage the powerful technologies that are interwoven
in their lives. Dr. Heitner shares how to do so in ways that
bolster your most potent parenting tool: your relationship with
your child.”
—Ned Johnson, coauthor of The Self-Driven Child
“Heitner’s approach to raising kids in our hyper-connected world is
empowering and reassuring. With each page, I felt more confident,
less worried, and more aware of what our kids are grappling with.
Best of all, now we have the tools to meaningfully connect and
support our kids."
—Michelle Icard, author of Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen
"A comprehensive resource on a topic that interests many parents.
Will prove essential for parents of children in the elementary
through teenage years."—Library Journal, starred review
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